A Quick Question
Posted on November 10, 2009
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Humor me for a second, and answer these three questions:
1. If you could only ask your future spouse three questions pertaining to marriage, what would they be?
2. What are the three most important qualities you look for in a partner?
3. What is your marriage deal breaker?
UPDATE: If you’re not comfortable leaving your name, you can leave a comment as “Anon” or you can e-mail me directly at Sabrina [at] Slice of Lemon [dot] com. Your name and e-mail will remain anonymous.
A related post on this topic coming soon…
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Gosh…ummm…I’m going to answer quickly here:
1. What do you believe that marriage should be based on? (in other words is he looking for a marriage based on Quran and Sunnah). Do you believe it’s important for a husband to consult with his wife on important issues? What are your feelings about children? Lol.
2. Strength, kindness and honesty
3. Unwillingness or inability to grow and to understand his partner (did I manage to get two things in there?
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Interesting to think about.
1. At what point in our life would you want to have children? How much of the household chores he’s willing to do? Who does he love the most? (his answer should be the prophet pbuh)
2. Patience, honesty, strength
3. Socializing with random woman once were together is a nono
Great, thought-provoking post! I usually just read your blog (which I love by the way), but I had to comment on this one…
1. A. What is your definition of marriage?
B. Do you think a husband and wife can be friends?
C. Are you willing to partake in the traditionally “wifely” duties, liking cooking and cleaning, from time to time?
2. Just three? Okay, this is hard… Empathy is most important to me (in any relationship, but especially in marriage!). Humility is also very essential. And something a little different, silliness (obviously not 24/7, but I can’t see myself being married to someone who does not appreciate the lighter things in life).
3. An inability to own up to mistakes/unwillingness to compromise.
1. Do you see marriage as 50/50 or 100/100 ‘partnership’?
Understanding that there can be only one head in a household as far as submission goes, do you consider women having an influence and say in family matters/decisions?
What is your belief/style of raising children?
2. Honesty, generosity and faithfulness.
3. Infidelity
three questions:
1)Does he pray his fard Salats?
2)what are his expectations of me as a wife?
3)what are three things about him he wouldn’t want me to find out from others?
three qualities: honesty, understanding, and caring
deal breaker: physical abuse
1. a)Do you see this as a partnership and situation where we both can learn and grow together?
b)Why do you want to get married? (I know it might seem a little silly, but I would never want to hear because my parents want me to, but thats not a deal breaker)
c)What are you looking for in a wife and what are you expectations of her?
2. Honesty, Sense of Humour, understanding/compassion, Love for Allah (SWT)
3. Abuse of any kind, mental, physical, emotional, psychological, financial, etc., things would end the first time it happend, I’m sorry you don’t get a second chance.
1. If you could only ask your future spouse three questions pertaining to marriage, what would they be?
-do you promise to practice our religion and make our home a religious one?
-do you promise to acknowledge/stand up for my rights?
-what is a “good wife” to you? (and after answering that question are you able to be a “good husband”?
2. What are the three most important qualities you look for in a partner?
-religious (or at least tries to be)
-funny (this one’s a must lol)
-caring
3. What is your marriage deal breaker?
-a roaming eye
Part One
1) Are you actively Muslim?
2)How many times do you expect me to go through childbirth?
3)Will you still love me even if I get super fat & lose all my lady parts?
Part Two
1)Pursues Islam with all his mind, heart, and intentions.
2)Honesty. It’s the best policy.
3)A bod made for S I N.
Part Three
1) TURNING DOWN A BRITNEY SPEARS SONG RIGHT WHEN I AM IN THE MIDDLE OF GETTING MY GROOVE THANG ON!!!
Ok just kidding (but only kind of).
Serious answer: Ungratefulness. I’m a good catch, he’s lucky he ended up with me! Anything else I can try to forgive.
If you could only ask your future spouse three questions pertaining to marriage, what would they be?
1. Why did you marry me?
2. What do you like/dislike the most of me?
3. If you could do it again, would you still marry me?
What are the three most important qualities you look for in a partner?
1. Honesty
2. Understanding
3. Humor
This is beside the fact that he needs to be Hindustani, Muslim and Sunni (which he is all 3)
What is your marriage deal breaker?
A second marriage/wife of him. I do not want to share my husband.
3 Questions:
a) What are your views on marriage?
b) What rolls and expectations will we have as husband and wife?
c) What about children?
3 Qualities:
1) A bit of an adventurer
2) Open mindedness
3) Humor
Deal Breaker:
I have two, infidelity and abuse.
1. If you could only ask your future spouse three questions pertaining to marriage, what would they be?
A) Are you looking for someone to be your mother or your partner?
B) If both my parents became seriously ill tomorrow, what would you say we should do?
C) What would you do if something happened that I couldn’t cook anymore?
2. What are the three most important qualities you look for in a partner?
A) Honesty – without honesty I will go the rest of my life wondering what he is really thinking
B) Charity – does he give freely and spontainiously of himself, or is every charity strategic (i.e. for tax write off)
C) A good father – If a two year old can walk up to him and muss his favorite clothes, poke his face, and scuff his shoes and he just laughs and starts playing with that child, that’s a good partner
3. What is your marriage deal breaker?
Lies. Lies are even worse than cheating because at least an honest cheater cares about your feelings, a liar does not care what gets back to you.
1 – *Are you a paractising Muslim?
*Why do you want to marry me?
*Do you want more then one wife?
2 – *Humour is a must – Has to has to make me laugh.
*Honesty
*Strength
3 – *Physical abuse – A big no no no!
1. Why do you want to marry me?
What things are most important to you..in no particular order.. like family, children, work, religion, friends…etc.
What do you want to gain from this relationship?
2. ****Sense of Humor**** HUGE!
Honesty
Trust…(& a cute butt..j/k it helps though)
3. Cheating & physical abuse. Super red flag.
1. why did you marry me? would you do it again? am I happy?
2. humor, ambition, work ethic
3. I’m suprised none of you put religion as a deal breaker (or is that just supposed to be assumed?) since it was a deal breaker for my husband. If I didn’t revert to Islam, we wouldn’t have gotten married. Personally, my only dealbreaker is infidelity. And I only *hope* that would be a dealbreaker. I’ve never had to deal with it so I can’t be sure. Sometimes you can’t help who you love- and you can never really be sure what you’ll leave for unless it happens.
1. If you could only ask your future spouse three questions pertaining to marriage, what would they be?
What are your plans for the future? What are you looking for in a wife? What kind of children do you want to raise and how do you want to raise them?
2. What are the three most important qualities you look for in a partner?
Kindness, Honesty and a sense of humour.
3. What is your marriage deal breaker?
Smoking. Cannot stand it and would not marry anyone who does it.
1. If you could only ask your future spouse three questions pertaining to marriage, what would they be?
Do you read your fardh salah? What qualities do you look for in a partner? What are your views in raising children?
2. What are the three most important qualities you look for in a partner?
To be a good listner, supportive and have a sense of humour
3. What is your marriage deal breaker?
It’s a toss between Infidelity and abuse
1. If you could only ask your future spouse three questions pertaining to marriage, what would they be?
- Will you make Islam #1 when it comes to raising our children? How often do you plan on being there for your children? Do you plan on teaching our children about their religion or will you send them to a religious school?
- How do you feel about secular education, working women, and living in the West? Are you willing to take my opinions and viewpoints into consideration when making decisions that affect us?
- Where do you want to make your permanent home with me? How do you feel about me? My family? My friends?
*apologies in advance for going over the 3 question limit, I couldn’t resist.
2. What are the three most important qualities you look for in a partner?
- Honesty
- Balance (e.g. he must be serious when need be, and funny when need be)
- Hard Working
3. What is your marriage deal breaker?
- Dishonesty. I can’t stand being lied to.
since i just feel like someone pulled the rug from under my feet let me talk about marriage deal breaker first.
when the guy asked for an emotionally detached marriage i.e. marriage of convenience i bolted. btw, we met on our own, he pursued me and atleast i thought we liked each other.
so 3 qs about marriage
1. what do you believe forms the foundation of an ideal marriage?
2. do you believe marriage is ibadah? if so why and how?
3. what would cause you to go back on your commitment?
3 qualities i’d look for in a partner
1. commitment
2. best friend
3. God consciousness
1. If you could only ask your future spouse three questions pertaining to marriage, what would they be?
A)- How important is Islam in your life?
– What do you expect from your wife?
– Waht will your role as a husband be?
2. What are the three most important qualities you look for in a partner?
A) – Pracitising Islam correctly, no innovations, and follows the deen.
– Respects all women.
– a good teacher for his wife and kids
3. What is your marriage deal breaker?
– a brother who is a womanizer… who has female friends, flirts with women and genreally socialises with them (Online, phone, work etc everythink).