This post is so long, if I Were You, I Probably Wouldn’t Read it.
Posted on June 19, 2009
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When The Boss and I got engaged, I knew that I was going to wear hijab on my wedding day as opposed to a more commonly taken route among Muslim couples, where a segregated wedding (men and women in separate halls) allows brides to dress as they please since the not-closely-related male relatives and male attendees would be seated elsewhere; the groom usually rolls up to the women’s side sometime during the night to see his girl and take pictures.
Since I told The Boss, I might get cold feet and sneak out of the hotel before the wedding starts For reasons that are beyond me, The Boss warned me not to run away on our wedding day. He was all, “If you don’t show up, I swear I will never talk to you again.” And I was like, “What if I call you later?” and he was like, “No, I won’t pick up.” And I was like, “If I call you why wouldn’t you pick up?” And he goes, “Because you left me at our wedding!” And I was like, “Yeah, but what if I had a flat tire?” And he goes, “You’re staying in the hotel! All you have to do is come downstairs!” So I was like, “Umm..Hello?!? What if I get a flat tire while trying to ride my bike into the hall? You obvs. don’t know how to plan for an emergency.”
The good news was, I didn’t run away; I also didn’t get a flat tire. The bad news was, my mom nixed my ‘ride in on a bike’ idea, which was a major disappointment because I’ve seen rappers do that like, at the Grammy’s. For real.
So one of my Canadian readers recently asked me for some tips on how to wear hijab on your wedding day, which is a topic I am thrilled to talk about because so many people think it’s impossible. So Many People are SO wrong! First, get your outfit and try it on before your wedding. And don’t let someone who’s known you for 3 minutes buy your clothes and show up with them in your hotel room the day of your wedding all, “Here you go, YAY!” because you’re probably going to want to stab someone.
Look, I know in a lot of cultures it’s custom for the groom’s family to buy you your wedding clothes. But I don’t see the logic. If you don’t have someone else pick out your outfits for work and school, why would you wear something that someone else picked out for you ON YOUR WEDDING DAY? I’m not saying you should be anti-culture and forbid your future in-laws from getting involved. Just make sure you take your mom with you wherever you go. When your mom is with you, no one can say anything that makes you feel even remotely uncomfortable. Basically, your mom is the only shield that can protect you from in-law discomfort. And no, there’s no pill for that. In fact, it’s a side effect of marriage written in really fine print at the bottom of Life that everyone forgets to read because we all think we’re immune.
Of course you don’t want to exclude your in-laws either so just be honest with them. Tell them what makes you feel comfortable and what doesn’t. If you pretend like you love everything they suggest, every idea they have, or every outfit they gift to/ show you, you’re only going to look bad later. Do you want to know why? I’ll tell you why. Because since you didn’t have the guts to speak up, you’re going to cry/whine/complain to your future husband who doesn’t have any tact so he’ll tell his mom that she needs to take a step back. Only instead of saying something like, “Mom, maybe you should let Jenna have a little more input,” he’s going to be all, “Mom, Jenna feels like you’re stealing her moment and she just wants you to BACK OFF, OKAY?!”
NO. TACT.
Then his mom is going to go all ballistic (and probably cry) and be all, “I raised you! Who the hell is Jenna? I can’t believe you’re talking to me like this! I can’t believe Je…THAT GIRL… is turning you into a boy who would talk to his mother like this! YOU WERE NEVER LIKE THIS AS A BOY!”
Then, your future mother-in-law is going to start acting all weird around you, and you’ll realize that your tactless (by no real fault of his own because it’s more of a gender default) guy spilled the beans and now you have to prepare yourself for The Car Fight because that’s definitely going to happen next. In the car you’ll yell and probably cry, and so first your guy’s mom cried and now you’re crying and so in a 29 hour period there’s been way too much crying. And let’s be real, no one looks good when they cry.
My original plan was to design my own gown. My dad was helping me with ideas and sketches and my mom took me to get swatches for fabrics and colors I liked; we also met with a seamstress. But The Boss’s mom really wanted to get me an outfit for our second reception that was going to be held at The Boss’s parent’s house in Connecticut the weekend following our wedding in Northern Virginia. So we invited The Boss’s family down for a visit and while they were in town we all went shopping together: me, my mom, my sister, The Boss, his parents and his brother. I realize that by sharing The Boss was even within local calling distance while I tried on wedding clothes is inducing an asthma attack for many of you because the groom CAN NEVER SEE THE BRIDE’S DRESS BEFORE THE WEDDING DAY otherwise EVERYONE WILL DIE or something like that, but I didn’t feel that way about my outfit for the second function. I didn’t want The Boss to see my wedding-day outfit until I walked down the aisle, but for the reception, I didn’t mind his involvement. In fact, I appreciated it. So everyone pulled outfits, gave their input and in the end The Boss’s mama got me an outfit that she and my mom (and the rest of the gang) loved. The Boss’s family got to pepper a little Indian culture on our wedding festivities and everyone was happy.
Once you have your outfit, try it on with the hijab and jewelry you’re going to wear the day of the wedding. Don’t try your gown on with the hijab you wear to the gym, or the one that you wear to run errands. No matter how long you’ve been wearing hijab, you have to practice. On your wedding day you’ll have extra fabric you don’t normally carry around and jewelry you don’t normally wear so a dress rehersal is critical.
A few months before my wedding my grandmother, Mimmi, moved into a nursing home, and her house was sold. During the clean-up-to-sell process, Uzma and I were given some stuff that Mimmi had kept aside for us. One afternoon my dad called me into the living room and said, “I know you want to design your own dress, but I want to show you something.” He opened up a little blue suitcase and pulled out a sari that Mimmi saved for me; her in-laws gave it to her shortly after she married my grandfather.
“I just want you to see it,” my dad said. “I thought you could wear this at your wedding, but only if you want to.”
He gently unwrapped the sari from the suitcase, wrapped it around my shoulders and draped it over my head. He walked with me to the mirror and in that moment, every sketch I’d drawn up, every fabric I’d picked, every color I’d seen became insignificant to the sentiment and beauty of what I’d been given.
And now, some photos.
(Photos by: Maria Lavalle of AC Ellis Photography)
A lot of brides that wear hijab get pressured into wearing short sleeves on their wedding day so their arms can be decorated with dozens of bangles. But I’m not down with getting bullied so my aunt and uncle who live in London sent us a few yards of beautiful gold fabric, and my mom had a long-sleeve blouse sewn for me. In this picture, my mom’s best friend is helping me get ready in my hotel room, and check it out, ya’ll! I’m wearing bangles!
In the South Asian cultures, it’s customary for the bride to have fabric from her outfit draped over her head, and to wear some sort of jewelry on her face. Everyone thinks you can’t do that if you’re in hijab. Everyone is wrong.
Here I am in my hotel room getting pinned by my aunt…or mom…I don’t remember. But I think it’s my aunt. I wore my hijab the way I normally do, but before I put on the underscarf, I pinned that piece of jewelery (called a “teeka”) to my hair with a bobby pin.
Who said you can’t wear a necklace with hijab? I wore a long strand of jewels, and tucked my hijab into my blouse. Normally, I never tuck my hijab into my clothes, but in this case it worked out perfectly because of the way the sari wrapped around my body. I know, I hunch. It’s because I’m shy. Really, I am. I don’t like it when everyone is looking at me. I actually thought about picking my nose so everyone would look away. But then I thought my mom would give me one of those Mom Death Stares and it would burn a hole into my forehead and I didn’t want to have a hole in my face in all my pictures, so I decided against the nose picking. I also didn’t want all the guests to leave before dinner.
We interrupt our regularly scheduled program to show you this photo: This is Little BFF, ya’ll! She was one of our six flower girls. Isn’t she gorgeous? I love you, Little BFF!
The following weekend, I wore my hijab again. This time, with the outfit that I picked out with the whole gang.
(Photos by: Danielle Klein-Williams of dani. fine photography)
Since my mom is a genius, when she had the extra fabric sewn onto this blouse, she also had the designer add three little buttons that snap open and shut in a really discrete place under my forearms. That way, when it was time to pray, I’d be able to make my ablution, which is the ritual washing before prayer, (and includes washing your arms passed your elbows) with ease.
Starch your hijabs, Brides. Not so much that you feel like you’re wearing cardboard on your head, but enough so that the car ride to wherever you’re going doesn’t ruin the effort it took to get ready.
I might be in mid-blink here. Or I might be squinting because the sun is in my eyes. Or, I could be in pain because The Boss might have squirted me in the eye with that lemon that’s stuck to his face.
Pinning the extra fabric (the “dupata”) that’s draped over my shoulders took the longest. First, my mom pinned it, but didn’t like it. Then she called her cousin for help, but didn’t like her version either. So she found her niece. Nope. Then I tried myself. Definitely not happening, according to my mom. My friends weighed in and she ignored them. Finally, she got a hold of her sister-in-law. Luckily, she’s pretty awesome at everything. And after all that, I had to go to the bathroom. No one was happy with me.
I had a little trouble with this hijab. Wanna know why? BECAUSE I DIDN’T PRACTICE. (Please take advice above.)
Oh, this little funny pie is Little Punk, Little BFF’s sister, and she has THE CUTEST LAUGH! (It’s worth the download!)
I know, I have sideburns. I also have arm hair. I’m Indian. Stop judging me.
Everyone says you can’t wear a head piece if you cover your hair. Tell them that they’re wrong, and that they smell. That will get them to stop talking and then eventually they’ll walk away because they’re going to want to sniff their armpits, but they won’t be able to because they’re in public, so they’ll try to do it discretely, but then they’ll be worried that someone will notice, so they’ll sneak away to the bathroom, and you can go about your business — hijab and all.
You’re welcome.
Pin the jewels (fake or real, no one will care, and the person who does shouldn’t have been invited anyway) to your hair with bobby pins. Put an underscarf, or bandanna, or headband over the pins, and then wrap your hijab.
It’s safe and secure, I tell ya.
Safe and secure.
This necklace was supposed to rest on my neck, against my collar bones. But if I wore it the way it was intended to be worn, you wouldn’t have been able to see it because of my hijab. Since chest exposure was not an option for me, we loosened the strings in the back so it hung about six inches from my neck, and was visible below my scarf.
The Boss’s mom got me those bangles, too. Aren’t they fun? Alright, well that’s about 12 more pictures of myself than I can handle, so I can only imagine what you’re going through. Blame it on Canada, that’s where the question came from.
Bottom Line: Know what you’re going to wear months before your wedding. That way, if you have to make any alterations, or can’t find a hijab you like, you’ll have all the time in the world to make those fixes. Look, the point is not to tell women to wear hijab on their wedding day. If you don’t wear hijab, or if you prefer to have a segregated wedding, then that’s totally your prerogative. But if you have decided to wear hijab as a liberating symbol and public declaration of your faith then I think you should stand up for what you believe in, even if the whole world (including family) is standing against you. The reality is, when you stand for something, be it because of your faith, your family, or your own moral compass, your belief system will be challenged by others — and sometimes by those you love most.
It’s so common to see women who cover their hair take off their scarves on their wedding day due to family pressure, but this post is to let every woman know that it doesn’t have to be that way. Style is not about doing what someone else wants, or expects you to do. It’s the dress of your thoughts — it’s about how you choose to express yourself, and what makes you feel confident, comfortable and beautiful. If you want to wear blue on your wedding day in a society that wants you to wear white, I say, wear the blue! But listen, if you have a crazy relative that gets all bent out of shape because you decided to go against the norm please don’t send them to this Web site. I’d hate for someone to pre-record that loud tongue yell some women can do and drop it in my inbox. That scares me.
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“Man in the early times was almost naked, and as his intellect evolved he started wearing clothes. What I am today and what I’m wearing represents the highest level of thought and civilization that man has achieved, and is not regressive. It’s the removal of clothes again that is regressive back to ancient times” - Nobel laureate, Tawakul Karman, in response to journalists who said her hijab was not proportionate with her level of intellect and education.
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“Man in the early times was almost naked, and as his intellect evolved he started wearing clothes. What I am today and what I’m wearing represents the highest level of thought and civilization that man has achieved, and is not regressive. It’s the removal of clothes again that is regressive back to ancient times” - Nobel laureate, Tawakul Karman, in response to journalists who said her hijab was not proportionate with her level of intellect and education.
Want to know the truth about Shari'ah and how this Islamic law effects the U.S. Constitution? Watch the videos below.
“Man in the early times was almost naked, and as his intellect evolved he started wearing clothes. What I am today and what I’m wearing represents the highest level of thought and civilization that man has achieved, and is not regressive. It’s the removal of clothes again that is regressive back to ancient times” - Nobel laureate, Tawakul Karman, in response to journalists who said her hijab was not proportionate with her level of intellect and education.
Want to know the truth about Shari'ah and how this Islamic law effects the U.S. Constitution? Watch the videos below.
Want to know the truth about Shari'ah and how this Islamic law effects the U.S. Constitution? Watch the videos below.
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Those outfits are completely and utterly jealousy-inducing (err, no evil eye attached :p) amazing. You looked fantastic. (And how’s that for a gushy first comment.)
Wow you looked so beautiful at your wedding ma sha allah! The pictures are great.. good tips, I love the way you wore your sari over your hijab.
B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L photographs and great advice! You looked amazing, and the make up was perfect. And yes, I read every word of your blog, as I’m sure everyone else who regularly visits here will
Btw, I think someone should tell The Boss that there’s a massive orange/lemon/lime/thing stuck on his face! Must be uncomfortable
Masha’Allah! May you always be happy and contented in your marriage to umm… the Lemon Face guy.
Wow. Masha’ Allah. You look absolutely beautiful!!!!!
Loved you in the saree. You did that with elegance.
After seeing that awesome shaadi make up, I think you should do one post on makeup. Please elucidate step by step on the bridal make up . I think people will love it, cause invariabley people’s bridal make-up ends up looking overdone and too shiny but yours was PERFECT.
Really looking forward to a post on the make up.
Also I seem to recognise your Uncle. From Hyderabad no?
MashaAllah, funny AND gorgeous? You’re clothes were beautiful. I wore hijab too but did the white dress western thing we Arabs like to do.
Sabrina,
You answered my prayers Mashallah! THIS is what I was looking for! I want to wear Hijab when I get married Inshallah but was unsure how to pull it off. And you’re right, society is very pressured on making you take it off.
First things first, your mom is made of awesome and a genius for the buttons on the sleeve. And you are awesome for showing me how you can rock the jewellery AND the hijab! That’s the only issue I had cause I’m Pakistani and would want traditional dress!
Sabrina, may you and the boss always be happy Inshallah and thank you so much for sharing. You totally MADE me year!
Wow, you looked amazing in all those photos, mashallah! I think those are the most beautiful saris I’ve ever seen! You and the Boss look cute together by the way
Looks like you had a beautiful wedding =)
youre such a beautiful person, inside and out mashaAllah.
*jaw drops*
Wow, so beautiful, mashallah! This made me (briefly) reconsider my plan to elope…
I totally understand about the hunching and everyone-looking-at-you part, though.
This was such a beautiful post!
I wasn’t sure what I’d for my wedding (wayyy in the future)and didn’t want to have a segregated one (there’s always that oonnee chick with the camera!) so I KNOW WHAT TO DO BECAUSE OF YOU!
Thank you and you are gorgeous masha’allah!
Awesome post!!! You looked absolutely gorgeous in your sari and lengha!!OOOH and I loved the way you wore the jewelry with the hijab; Stunning!!!
Gorgeous pictures! You looked absolutely stunning at your wedding Mash’Allah
You and the lemon face guy are adorable!
stunning mashallah
Masha’Allah! You look gorgeous! I am still amazed at how well you incorporated hijaab with the traditional Indian outfits and jewelry. Brilliant!
Salam!
mashAllah your wedding pics are beautiful! i love seeing pics where girls pull off hijab with their wedding outfits so perfectly. great advice too!
btw, u are one of the funniest bloggers out there! i always look forward to reading your posts.
I COMPLETELY understand the whole unease of everyone looking at the bride-thing… in a way that’s why for a long time I planned on getting married in an abaya and a tuxedo t-shirt just to avoid that. But after your post, I’m actually really inspired to have a hijabi-tastic (cheesy, no?) wedding b/c masha’Allah, you pulled it off beautifully. However, I was wondering what you thought about mixed-culture marriages/weddings.
Hi Belquis. When it comes to “mixed marriages,” I’m all for populating the earth with beautiful people that are products of interracial marriages. I’m not a fan of mixing it up to the point that a man and woman have different belief systems — be it about religion, politics, animal rights, etc.
People say that opposites attract, but I don’t believe that. I think that opposites can befriend each other temporarily, but long term, I think you need to invest your time, and build your life with someone that is similar to you. I strongly believe that it’s important for you and your partner to have similar goals in life, similar interests, shared morals, and ideals. When you marry someone, your families unite, you might raise children, and you chase dreams — individually and together.
It’s impossible to know everything about a person before you marry them, but I think it is insanely important to talk to your future spouse about what your goals are in life — both as a wife/husband, and as an individual. I don’t think mixing cultures is a big deal if you value the same things, but I don’t believe in inter-religious marriages — and I know that’s a very unpopular thing to say.
In the short term, things appear to be fine, but as we all get older, that basic human instinct of wanting to know God kicks in within all of us — and if you don’t have a partner you can trust, and relate to in spiritual and worldly matters, I think you’re missing out on one of the most profound aspects of human partnership. I’m not saying everyone needs a religion — if you’re an Atheist, marry an Atheist. But if you’re a Muslim, and you marry an Episcopalian, know that you won’t have much ground to stand on when you argue why you don’t want your kid to be baptized — that’s not how life works.
Just because someone doesn’t speak the same native tongue as you, I don’t think that merits not marrying that person. And in some cases, two weddings (or more) could be fun if you chose to marry into another person’s culture. Ultimately, the most important thing in the world is that you and your partner are on the same page. You’re a team after you get married – a force to be reckoned with. How you treat each other, both publicly and privately, will pave the way, and set the tone for the rest of your lives together.
Your grandma’s sari was beautiful and perfect to wear over your hijab. mashaAllah!
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I married someone from another race and culture, and I think it’s awesome…if you and your respective families are not completely immersed in your own cultures and crazy about keeping those cultural traditions.
We have both lived in different countries and have parents who have friends from all sorts of cultures and religions, so acceptance and respect for each other’s culture came easily.
I think interracial and inter-cultural marriages are a great idea when you share the same values, goals and lifestyle. You learn to see that what you wear or eat or which language your family speaks becomes the least of your concerns.
By the way, you can clearly see the love in your eyes from the way you look at him (the pic with the lemon face!
mashaAllah, may God keep your rleationship strong in love and faith, always.
Mashallah you look so gorgous sis…i loved your outfits makes me want to me Indian too lol:P
I love the idea of wearing hijab on your wedding day, im still figthing with mumzy to let me wear mine:/ (btw i think your outragously funny lol made me crack up reading that, you certainly know how to capture your audiences attention bravo!)
You look beautiful with hijab and sari(s), both colours suit you well mashAllah. It’s great to see more and more sisters opting to wear hijab on their wedding day!
OMG little bff sister has a contagious laugh, too cute!
M A S H A L L A H how beautiful! You look great Sabrina and the outfits – so beautiful! I love the pictures and the post is great, it’s really important to bring this up because I’ve seen hijab-wearing sisters take off the hijab on their wedding just to look good on the big day, but you’ve really showed it’s possible to even look better WITH hijab on the wedding day. Thank you!
Advice to anyone wanting to wear a hijab on their wedddin day definately do. MY wedding took place in a small pakistan village it included mostly females and some male cousins and uncles. but i still wanted to wear the hijab. ofcourse everyone said no (crazy right?????)The result i didnt wear a hijab and have regretted it ever since.
Now i keep my pics hidden. Getting married is the most amazing moment of ur life so wear what u want otherwise u’ll regret it.
However now I’m exacting revenge on my brother in law walima where the groom ‘sisters’ wear their wedding lehnga i’m wearing a hijab
I can’t believe I read the whole thing
Seriously, the photos are stunning masha’Allah and there are lots of ideas for those who want to decorate and wear hijab – not only on their wedding day furthermore…
*Gasping for air*
Wowzers, mashallah, you are absolutely stunning! And your saris are so beautiful its kinda mind boggling – just exquisite. A friend of mine is getting married this summer and I get to wear a sari for the very first time – im super excited.
Great post!
P.S What type of make-up do you use?
Thank you Sabrina for your wonderful advice. I definitely agree with you but it was one of those instances where I needed reassurance after hearing so many people say that they just don’t work. The most important thing is to know yourself and know the other person… people are people no matter what culture their from.
absolutely beautiful. so beautiful that i thought at first i was looking at bridal mag pics..honestly.
how lovely…and i felt a bit of a tear drop.
salaam… omg, masha’Allah, you look beautiful!
amazing. really. masha’Allah.
mashAllah, so so inspiring! not just the photos, but your words at the end. this was a great post and, without disclosure, I appreciate it so much on a very personal level and, again, was truly inspired…
oh where were u during my wedding.. wish i had seen such posts.. wud have given me the courage to do what i want instead of just bowing to inlaws pressure.. anyway lots more weddings to attend and this time i dress like i want.. and u look just 2 beautiful. Masha Allah..
The way you put the cloth over the hijab looks fantastic. It reminds me of the way medieval ladies used to wear their veils.
By the way, do i see some LA Lakers in the background in the flick of you slouching???
Wow you looked awesome! I love love LOVE the colours!
(PS; apparently I look good when I cry. lol)
Mashallah!!
I loved this post, and your pics are stunning. Great advice! I’m actually making a post about this topic on Tuesday (hijab vs non hijab).
My wedding was separate, except for part of it when I wore a cape like thing. I was not to happy to have messed up my hair lol.
Awww.. How sweet. I wore hijab on my wedding which was a crazy-last-minute-OMG-if-we-don’t-do-it-now-she’ll-never-get-married event.
… so I couldn’t pin it, but MashaAllah it worked out beautifully.
All of my wedding planners, friends and family were against it especially because I hadn’t even seen my dress and everyone was afraid I would clash etc. I did a simple pin to the front gold hijab and it looked awesome.
I never let anyone, not even women see my hair unless they are close friends or family, so I never planned on anyone seeing me. I did not have the luxury you had of practicing with my dress
Lovely pix BTW
err i meant seeing my hair lol…
Mashallah sweet sister! You are so gorgeous, and I felt like I was looking at Bride’s magazine! I love the jewelry that was chosen, did your parents buy it all? I also really liked the colors of both dresses! By the way, I am sersiouly loving this blog sweetie.
I loved this. And I totally agree with colors, I actually wore green too when I got married (and black as well.) I think that goes for any culture, style, whatever…you’re right…wear what makes you feel special as a bride…so true!!!
p.s. i like the grapefruit-ed husband pic made me laugh soooo hard!
p.s.s. i can’t remember if i saw your second outfit before but that was amazing as well..so beautiful!
btw…everyone has armhair..stop it. don’t be so hard on yourself.
Absolutely Gorgeous! MashaAllah.
Thankfully I was stubborn abt wearing hijab for my wedding too
MashAllah…gorgeous pics.
Uncle not hugging. Hilarious.
Glad you included pictures because after reading the title I swear my ADD kicked in. It looked like a GORGEOUS affair, mashallah. And love the witty remarks sprinkled through out.
MASHALLAH!!! Absolutely beautiful! I didn’t think I would read the whole thing but I couldn’t stop. Thank you for the advice, too. I a revert who comes from a large, loud-mouthed, Italian family (who happens to be Roman Catholic). I am engaged to a Muslim, Palestinian man. It has, and continues to be a struggle to explain to my family why I choose to wear hijab at my wedding and why I would like a traditional Arab-Muslim wedding. They’re still kind of reeling from the reversion to Islam. But its good to hear that others have struggled with the same thing and have made it through… relatively unharmed
Thank you for the post!
Wow! mashAllah, you look beautiful, the outfits are beautiful, the whole thing just looks beautiful!
&& Little BFF and her sister are soo cute!
Thankyou for the advice
Could you please do a post on the make up, pretty pleasee!
my apologies..i thought the lemon was a grapefruit.
i have my moments…upon second reading i realized the whole lemon connection..lol.
Dear Ms. Slice of Lemon!
MashAllah you look excellent! I would love you see your mom’s wedding pics
mashaallah!!! gorgeous you!!! and incredibly pretty wedding pictures! I have never seen anything like this. I salute you that you tried all you can to cover your aurah, while still getting pretty as bride. Not so many people would do that.. most of them would say “never mind, its just one day”
even some of my friends put their hijab off on wedding day, they say so they’ll be prettier… well.. to me.. this is the day you’re been looking at by everyone.. so of course, you must keep you hijab on, rite???
anyway congratulations to you!!!! hope Allah belss this marriage, and put yo both among the faithful ones
Your blog is amazing, it makes me feel proud to be muslim. The wedding dress – gorgeous , stunning.You looked serene and beautiful May Allah bless you both with contentment.
Please advise, how do you get past feeling like the hijaab is in you way while working and that you keep needing to visit the ladies to check if everything is in place. I find this my biggest challenge. I wear hijaab occasionally.
Love your blog..
Salaam
Rubina
As salam alaykum from Finland
MashAllah, you look fabulous!
I love your beautiful sari,
Where is your family from??
Masya ALLAH Sabrina you pulled it off beautifully!!! Loved the incorporation of the headgear & sari i.e. traditional wear with your hijab…. i so love it near the face… hope it’s not too late to wish you & hubby CONGRATULATIONS..
Salamualaikum….sis in islam
on your wedding so nice!!!oh well done mashallah
may Allah bless you all
…amin…
as salam alaikum..
you looked mighty stunning i must say! love your grandmother’s sari!!
and also the lehenga look.
this definitely gives me the motivation to wear my hijab on my wedding day when it comes (I’m only 19) , InshaAllah.
Alhamdullilah, you show your self to be a beautiful Muslim woman. Sister, what you are doing here on this website and this post will help a lot of women to keep their hijabs on even on their wedding days, like you said can be difficult. I have personally seen one woman in particular who is already thinking differently about wearing hijab on her wedding day after seeing this post. God will give you great rewards for this.
hi
just drop by to say that i enjoyreading ur blog.
i enjoy reading ur blog..
from malaysia
ALHAMDULILLAH! u luk stunning
n dat indeed waz big tym inspiration.. 
u did dt so well dearie.. may Allah bles ya! n i jus happend to read until d end.. honestly speakin.. rushin thru made me feel i cud misunderstand at the rate ur sarcasm goes high up to d sky…. !!
Asselam aleikum!
You know, I always find it so hard – especially with South Asian trends – as the colours are so strong and sometimes even overbearing. I’m definitely taking these tips onboard 
I am hooked onto your blog too – hopefully we’ll get Germany up the Top 5 ranks sometime soon insh’allah 
Wowwww, mash’allah – absolutely stunning. You know, I’ve been trawling Google with ‘hijab lengha’ and been desperately looking for a style which would actually look GOOD! Elhamdo, I found your site sis!
I’m not Muslim–don’t know how I found your blog, actually, just followed link after link from blogs that I normally read. But I wanted to say that you look amazing in these photos. Stunningly beautiful.
I’m living in Egypt right now, so my Christian faith and uncovered hair definitely are in the minority. But I’m often struck by how pretty and stylish many hijabis are.
I applaud you for being firm enough in your beliefs to do what it took to have the wedding that best reflected you. I don’t know of any brides who have looked more beautiful on their wedding days than you did on yours.
Masha’Allah sister, you looked very beautiful on your wedding day. You are very funny too
Salaam from Norway.
Salaam sis
Wow masha’Allah u looked beautiful on ur wedding – May Allah always keep u smiling.
This is my first time iv been on ur blog site & first article iv read & i loved it!
i agree no1 should have to compromise their hijab ob their wedding day – i also wore my hijab on my wedding..no1 was gona stop me! my style was similar to urs – only difference on the first day of the wedding i wore an english dress.
my sis is insha’Allah getting married next year & will be wearing hijab, i will show her ur article – im sure she will love it just as much as i did!
This article is absolutely brilliant. Thank you for enlightening young hijabis everywhere
Oh dear, I always dreamed of an Asian style wedding, though I am quite Europen myself. InshaAllah my husband to be is Paksitan, and I can take all this great advice you have given me and put it into action.
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I love all the ‘bling bling’ the bangles the beautiful emroidered outfits, everything – even though I am qute the simple girl when it comes to day-to-day dress and stuf. I love the colors you chose, and the green was just awsome
MashaAllah you were a beautiful bride, may Allah bless your marriage inshaAllah!
Absolutely Brilliant post sister!
Woah, too many comments for me to read but i’m sure i’m saying the same as everyone else.
I love your grandmothers sari, i loved everything you had to say and i dont even wear hijab!
It just made so much sense … it was everuything i always wanted to say and you said it. i will have to dig this out to show to every bride to be that crosses my path.
Mashallah you looked amazing and very stylish… proving that you dont have to a) go without hijab on your wedding day or b) look like a monster HA HA
Masha’Allah, you look beautiful!! Love the slice of lemon over the hubby’s face! Lol, very clever :0)
JazkaALLAH Khayrun for this!!!!
my wedding soooooooon, have had a beautiful hijab made with my dress, inshaALLAH everyfin will go well, and i make du’a for all u hijabis out der getting married x
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Salaam & Ramadan Kareem!
The wedding pics are amazing! Gives me many Ideas for my wedding…with my husband who I have not met yet, lol!
I enjoyed reading your blog and mash’Allah you look beautiful. congratulations on the wedding, may Allah(Swt) bless you both with a naik/happy/healthy and prosperous marraige. Ameen
Sis, you looked absolutely stunning!!! You have done hijabis around the world proud….So many women get it wrong – probably cos of lack of practise like you said, but you got it SO right. SO STUNNING. I’m glad u put up pics and didn’t just describe it. Wishing u and Mr Lemon (who seems rather dashing) all the happiness in both worlds Insha’allah xxxx
oh thankx so much! u dnt knw wht u’ve done for me, i’ve been looking for xactly this for the past year. Although we’r muslims but no one xcept me wears hijab in the entire family. And whn i anounced tht i wana wear hijab on my wedding day as well….trust me u dnt even wana knw wht i had to hear from my cousins and aunts, my mom’s n sister’s issue was how will i wear the head piece like the one u wore on your walima but now i’ve got my answers!
May Allah bless u!
Wow, MASHALLAH. You look sooooooo beautiful, & MA i love ur courage….. May Allah bless you and your husband with every success and happiness. Aameen. Keep up the good work, & thanks for posting the pics so that we can all learn from them. May Allah give u a lot of ajar, IA
Mashallah. Great inspiration, I pray you are rewarded for this in this world and the next. Also, that you and Mr Lemon are always happy together and remain so even in the Afterlife, Ameen.
Loved your blog, I only clicked on the link (from google) as was looking for Hijab styles and having briefly glanced through the blog and pics decided that Im going to congratulate you then go on and read it ALL properly
Salam sister, and please keep me in your prayers!
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Masha-Allah.since i started hijab i also left all these things nd i’m still trying to do.May Allah help me nd guide me on this right way.Ameen
Sabrina these are beautiful! I’m not Indian but I think I might chose to wear an indian inspired outfit, kind of East-meets-West, because I want my wedding to be mixed and Hijab looks great with Indian dresses as you have so greatly illustrated!
wow this was awesome! u looked great, mA. I don’t knoe y, but I’ve been thinking a lot about getting married lately, must be those stupid teen hormones (17), N I’ve been thinking bout how to go about all halal-ly. You’ve got some pretty awesome tip[s on hijabi shaadi’s. I’ve been hijabi for over 2 years now, n I wasn’t sure how to do it w/o looking like an aunty, but u look so good, mA. i havn cn the rest o the site yet, but do u hav a post on courting?, cuz it seems like you got to know ur hubby pretty well, which i think is superb. <3 stay happy, iA.
btw I loveloveLOVE ur sari. I decided a while ago that I’m gonna get married in a sari. (My sister will have a lot of stuff on her hands, planning my wedding).
bet a couple people r regretting telling me my nani was madrasi, now that theyv discovered my sari obsession
Those outfits were gorgeous
and I loved your hijab and how it matched perfectly and your sense of humor. Mashallah <3
Because I’ve been wearing hijab for quite some time now I really wanted to wear it on my wedding day too (when the time comes). Thank you so much for all the pictures.. and your ideas really encouraged me too… I mean why should we care what people think if we wear a hijab on our wedding day. My friend wore it too on her wedding and she looked amazing. Inshallah I wont take off mine either.
Thanks once again
After seeing your tweet, I followed the site you mentioned, which lead me here. Mashallah, what beautiful pics! I have always wanted to wear a sari to special events, but never knew a hijab would actually look nice with it.
You looked so pretty!
I just want to say Im so glad I stumbled upon this blog.. Im currently trying to plan my wedding party in Pakistan from UK
Im gori 
so its been hard picturing how things will be and telling hubby.. alhamdulillah your explanations and diagrams and suggestions have been welcomed 
jazakAllah khair sister, hope you dont mind if I follow your blog (feel free to catch me on mine)
thats really nice! But do you think you can give some advice on what to wear with western style white dress weddings? :/
So beautiful and inspirational, mash’allah. I definitely want to look traditional beautiful (i’m south asian too)for my (future once i find a husband) wedding. but i always worried that b/c i wear a hijab it would limit my options. thank u for showing me that there r no limits. also, i love that u prayed before the ceremony.
You looked simply stunning!!!Mashallah!!
You are beautiful. And the outfits you chose are the most gorgeous and stunning I have seen. The hijab, jewelry, and sari/lengha all work perfectly together. Thank you for sharing.
This article is an inspiration. Thank you for posting it. I also wear tight hijaab everywhere, and looking back now on my wedding last year, I wish I had been able to cover up more. Though, seeing that my in-laws are not as religious as my family, I think I did relatively well.
Our wedding day was hosted by my family, so it was going to be segregated, so I I did have my dupatta draped “normally” and altough I had asked that my sleeves be full-length, my in-laws ended up getting me a 3/4 length shirt that was sheer nontheless! But, I wasn’t so worried seeing that I knew no men would be on that side.
Our wedding recepetion (waleema) was hosted by my in-laws and was mixed, and I solved the short sleeve problem by pinning the ends of my dupatta around my arms. And when I pinned the duppata to my head, I didn’t pin it behind my ears to tuck it behind them, so my ears were hidden for the most part. But a little bit of hair at top still showed and my neck too
Looking back on it now, I wish I had tried a little bit harder, but I think I did ok regarding the circumstances.
I say to anyone else worrying about what to do on their wedding day to take your advice!
I will be getting married in 2 weeks, InshaAllah. But my future in-laws are going to get saree with 3/4th sleeves which I would not comfortable with, I would want full sleeves and I don’t know what colour they would be getting. I am particular about hijab and not exposing my forearms. They would also be getting flower head gare, which I dont like. What to you suggest on this.
Hi Ayesha. Congrats on your upcoming wedding! I imagine your in-laws know you wear hijab, so just let them know that you need the outfit to have long sleeves and you’d love to know what color the outfit is so you can find a matching hijab. Just keep the lines of communication open and inshallah everything will work out! Best of luck
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatu
I loved your wedding clothes¡¡¡ its exactly what i’m looking for my walimah in canada…I already had my nikkah in my country but we want to do a walimah in my husband’s country, his family is fijian-indian so this is the kind of style I want to wear for my walimah dress but I wanted it to be covering me properly and I found your wedding dresses exactly to be what I’m looking for, the style and the covering…may I ask where did you get this clothes from? or anywebsite or place where I can get something like this? I haven’t read the whole post its very long but I loved the pictures¡¡¡ waiting for your answer inshaallah¡¡¡ thanks
this is so beautiful