I think I had a really uncomfortable conversation with my father-in-law but I’m not sure

Posted on May 19, 2009
Filed Under Daily, Moving, Newlywed, Wow | 22 Comments

The Boss’s mom is in England visiting her mom, sister and brother, so I thought I’d give my father-in-law a buzz to see how he’s holding up. (Read: Man without wife crumbles due to hunger and inability to care for himself while spouse is away.)
Okay, well maybe it’s not that dramatic, but you know how it is – women can be away from their spouses and still survive in their own solitude with doses of support from friends and family, while men can’t figure out how to do basic things. I think it’s a self-esteem thing. They need to know that they’re supported, they need someone to talk to, and even though they probably wouldn’t admit it, sometimes, you just need a hug.

Oh, you silly boys.

So I called my father-in-law and I’m all, “Hey, how’s life, blah blah,” and we’re just chatting it up, when all of a sudden I think our conversation turned in a direction I’m not sure I wanted it to go — and even though it’s been like three days, I’m still not sure what to make of the whole thing.

FIL: So when are you leaving for California?

Me: I think mid-June. I’m going to spend some time with my dad and then head out.

FIL: Good. You’ll have to plan around [The Boss's] schedule so he can get you from the airport and take a little time away from work then, right?

Me: I guess. I thought I’d get out there on a Wednesday, but he’s saying to come in on a Friday so we have the whole weekend together. Otherwise it won’t really feel like we got to be together, you know?

FIL: laughs

FIL: No I don’t know. It’s been a long time.

FIL: laughs again

Me: confused

FIL: still laughing

Me: what is he talking about? OMG…?!?!?!?

Me: really confused and now really embarrassed and trying to find a way to erase the last 30 seconds of my life.

Me: Well, you know, I mean, like he wants to do a lot when I get there, like show me the city and stuff, and if I get there on a Wednesday, then he’ll still have to work. But you know, like he wanted to go out to dinner and take me around…

FIL: lets out another chuckle.

FIL: Okay.

Me: Okay.

Awkward, right?!?
Readers, what happened?!?!?!
I mean, was that conversation as uncomfortable as I think it was, or did I really just miss the joke?
Because I’m reeeeaaally hoping I just missed the joke.

Haha…ha…heh….hmmm…

Comments

22 Responses to “I think I had a really uncomfortable conversation with my father-in-law but I’m not sure”

NeverEver on May 19th, 2009 9:58 am

ahahahahahahahaha

your fil’s got his mind in the gutter… LOL
caraboska on May 19th, 2009 10:25 am

Multiple choice:

A) Keep cool and pretend nothing is going on.

B) Laugh politely and then ask, ‘Oh by the way, what are we laughing about?’

C) Don’t laugh, and then ask FIL to explain the joke, watch him squirm for a bit, then laugh politely, then tell him, ‘I still don’t understand the joke, but I have to admit that it’s amusing to watch you squirm like that.’

D) Make sure to only talk to FIL with his wife in active attendance.

E) All of the above – sounds very confusing indeed.
Humaira on May 19th, 2009 11:24 am

Oh wow, I’m not sure what to make of that either and if its what I think its about then *Hugs* that’s a really uncomfy topic to be talking to your FIL about!
Nurah on May 19th, 2009 11:29 am

U missed the joke, hon! hee, hee, ha, heh…hmmmm
jessyz on May 19th, 2009 2:03 pm

Cool father in law, mine doesn’t even talk to me, he ignores me completely.
Jamaican Hijabi on May 19th, 2009 3:32 pm

OMG, that’s hilarious….I would be feeling pretty awkward tooo
Diali on May 19th, 2009 3:36 pm

Hahaha, very funny!!
I’ll bury myself if I had a conversation like that with my FIL, lol.. hilarious (don’t bury yourself though, we love u too much )
nashe on May 19th, 2009 4:13 pm

Maybe he really DOES miss his wife. LOL!
sally on May 19th, 2009 4:50 pm

my father in law always jokes like that. It’s very uncomfortable.
!!!
Jamerican Muslimah on May 19th, 2009 5:37 pm

I think I would’ve froze.
Sara on May 19th, 2009 7:36 pm

Hey, What if he ends up reading this?? Won’t that make it more awkward?
? on May 19th, 2009 8:11 pm

you’re reading way too much into it….. i think its really awkward now if he reads it….
Iman on May 19th, 2009 8:36 pm

Haha, I squirmed just reading your post! He’ll get over it… I hope!!
Slice of Lemon on May 19th, 2009 8:44 pm

Hi Sara, I’m with Iman, I think he’ll get over it. Plus, I think the point was to make it awkward for me, not him! He’s a very smart man, you know — and he has a great sense of humor:)
Jen on May 20th, 2009 6:01 pm

hahaha..this is so funny.
i noticed that something happens when you get married – that everyone thinks that it’s cool to like allude to the boom-boom in da room-room (like newlyweds are monkeys or something)

this reminds me of a weird convo with my FIL about if our shower was large enough to fit two people…umm..you can guess the rest.
Roshan on May 20th, 2009 7:16 pm

So, ummmm…. I am sooo sorry about that conversation, even though I’m still perplexed of what he was hinting at even though everyone else is getting it. I feel like I’m in math class again. what the h?
caraboska on May 20th, 2009 7:37 pm

Roshan, It looks like FIL was insinuating that a weekend (as opposed to weekday) visit would afford them greater opportunity to make use of their newly-acquired ‘marital privileges’ (and maybe give him a grandchild or two while they’re at it?).
Sabrina on May 21st, 2009 2:07 am

Oh.

Wow.

How awkward that I got that..

-pat pat-
Saadia on May 26th, 2009 9:10 pm

well, I don’t think that you missed the joke…
It was what you think it was
hihi
Tayba on April 7th, 2010 2:38 am

I’ve just read everyones comments,understood (finally) what FIL was laughing at, and then looked back at the convesation you had with him when he first started laughing – AND BURST OUT LAUGHING MYSELF HAHAHAAH LMAO love your posts (“,)
Aisha N on May 20th, 2010 5:33 pm

Case in point: HILARIOUS post!
Nabihah Syed on June 9th, 2010 11:11 pm

haha… lol